When discussing abortion, certain issues tend to come up. Two of the most common? Adoption and the foster system.
I’m often told abortion saves children from misery in foster care; people who say that usually overlook some things. One is that if foster kids really are better off dead, why only kill them prior to birth? Shouldn’t we be euthanizing newborns and toddlers as well? Replies to these questions are rarely polite.
They also don’t realize that choosing not to parent doesn’t mean putting your child “in the system.” Waiting couples actually outnumber adoptable infants, and many can be found online. Further, most children don’t enter foster care as babies: the Department of Health and Human Services reports the median age as 6.4.
Abortion advocates aren’t typically pleased to learn this. Some respond that if aspiring parents were truly pro-life, then they would seek out foster children. Recently, I heard one call adoptive couples “selfish” for wanting to adopt “fresh newborns.” I pointed out that they’re at least providing families to some children and then asked how many kids he had helped.
I never heard back.
Most children in foster care aren’t eligible for adoption: the majority have returning to their family as their eventual goal. However, around a quarter of them are. The good news? There’s an organization that helps make it happen.
The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption was named for Wendy’s founder Dave Thomas, and it’s “driven by a single goal: finding a loving family for every child waiting in foster care to get adopted.” On its website, Americans can find information on how to adopt along with how to make a workplace adoption friendly (there’s a site for Canadians as well). It also features a program that connects kids with the families they need.
The Wendy’s Wonderful Kids® program has helped over 6300 children to find permanent homes. It provides funding to hire Wendy’s Wonderful Kids recruiters, “professionals who implement proactive, child-focused recruitment programs targeted exclusively on moving America’s longest-waiting children from foster care into adoptive families.” Recruiters are trained to use “aggressive practices and proven tactics” on behalf of the kids they serve.
Recruiters operate across the United States and Canada; there’s an interactive map on the website to help you find one in your area. And even if you’re not ready to adopt, there are still ways you can lend a hand.
While the foster system is far from perfect, telling foster kids they’d be better off dead is reprehensible. Still, many of them do need help.
You can provide it.
This article was originally published at Western Free Press.